What If There Is Nothing Wrong With You?

Many of us spend a lot of our time wondering what’s wrong with us. We wonder what’s wrong with our bodies, minds, lives, relationships–pretty much everything. Listen to your mind, and you are likely to find an incessant chorus of negative thoughts about yourself.

If you’re trans*, you’ve got a lifetime of reasons to think there’s something with you. You may experience a mismatch between your brain and your body, or between your heart and your social role. You may have been told you don’t exist, or, worse, that you shouldn’t–a mismatch between your society and your soul.

I think we’ve all spent enough time wondering what’s wrong with us. Maybe it’s time for a new question.

What if there is nothing wrong with you?

First, you could let go of all the thoughts and feelings about not being good enough, smart enough, man or woman enough, etc. When you cringe in embarrassment at something you said or did, when you think “Of course I would do this, I’m just so [stupid, ugly, fill in the blank],” you can just chuckle and let it go–you know there is nothing wrong with you.

You could stop any attempt to be something that you’re not. No need to fake it, no need to apologize for what you want or don’t want. You know there is nothing wrong with you.

You could drop all the little ways you hurt yourself. Do you ever treat yourself like shit? We can be cruel to our bodies, our hearts, our spirits. We stay in relationships with people who don’t respect us, or do things that make us feel horrible. Maybe we’re punishing ourselves or think we deserve no better. But that can’t be true–there is nothing wrong with you.

If there’s nothing wrong with you, you deserve the best you can have. It doesn’t mean you never make mistakes or that nothing about you should ever change. What’s wrong with mistakes, or change? Nothing. So perhaps it means it’s time to change, to live in a manner befitting a wonderful being such as yourself.

What if there is nothing wrong with you?

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